“But I don’t FEEL like it!”
One of the biggest roadblocks to success, or achieving our goals, is letting our emotions take over the conversation in our heads.
We say we want to accomplish something, we map out a plan, we hire a trainer, but when it comes time to act all of a sudden, we don’t “feel” like doing it.
If you want to see proof, stop by the gym the next time it rains.
This past Monday it was cold and pouring rain the entire morning, and it definitely showed in the attendance.
In fact, if I looked at the attendance for the entire year I could predict, with great accuracy, the worst weather days of the year. It’s much easier to stay inside your home or not show up to the gym because you don’t feel like it – especially when it’s not easy or convenient.
Don’t get me wrong, I do the same thing. I’m a big college football fan, so on most Saturdays I don’t feel like eating clean or working out.
It’s so much easier to let our circumstances, or the weather, or our social life, get in the way of our goals.
Usually in the moment these things become more important than our goals and we end up just not “feeling” up to doing what it takes to be successful.
The problem is in the long term this need for immediate gratification leads to even more intense negative emotions.
When we let these, “I don’t feel like it” moments add up, we feel worse, we get angry with ourselves, we get frustrated at our lack of results and we get anxious that we are now at a point where we are worse off than where we started.
What does this have to do with training? Most of these moments come at a time when we get distracted with other things in our lives.
This time of year is the worst. We have to go holiday shopping, prepare our houses for company, and spend every waking minute with our families visiting. So, we end up skipping what we know is the most important , our own health. We gain weight, we lose sleep, and we get stressed out. We let these other things take precedent and leave us feeling like we don’t want to train.
Here’s how you avoid this. Just commit to action. And the action you have to commit to doesn’t have to be working out, it just has to be drive to the gym. Just show up and the rest will take care of itself.
Nothing sums it better than a quote by Harvard psychologist Jerome Bruner
“You’re more likely to act yourself into feeling than you are to feel yourself into action.”
Right now make the commitment to action. Tell yourself, write it in your calendar, you are going to drive yourself to the gym 2, 3, or 4 times a week for the rest of this year. No matter what your circumstances or the weather may be.
You will show up every time. If you do this you will feel much better about yourself come the new year!