When our third child Joey was born, so many things changed.
No joke, I must have heard this 100x in the last few months:
“Now you’re going from man to man to zone defense.”
Things came up I did not even think about!
One of them was getting 3 car seats in Vanessa’s car.
Our car definitely had the capacity for 3 seats, but we had to put Bella’s in the 3rd row.
In an effort to not drive my hard working wife with 3 kids under 4 years old crazy, we needed to get Bella to be able to buckle herself in her car seat without help.
At first, it was not looking good.
Bella had a very tough time even holding the buckle, let alone buckling it.
I put her in and would sit there with her, sometimes for 30 minutes.
She would get frustrated and start to cry, very quickly.
I would get frustrated too.
I then realized I was going about this all wrong.
Every time Bella would try, she knew there was frustration and failure coming up.
I was giving her something to do that was not impossible, but definitely beyond her current development.
I remembered what was needed to learn a new skill.
Many times when you are learning something new, you need to practice it in small chunks first.
So that’s what we did.
I started putting the seatbelt half way in… and she would finish it.
Then only a 1/4 of the way in.
She started to love putting on her seatbelt because she was experiencing small wins.
In fact every time she got a buckle in she would yell “Bullseye!!”
After only a few days, she nailed it, all by herself.
I was not alone in this victory, both her grandmas, Coach Chris (Bella’s trainer) and Vanessa played a huge role.
The same can go for us:
Are you making things too hard?
Are you trying to do everything at once?
Set yourself up for success and commit to doing something easy.
If we try to do everything at once we are setting ourself up for failure.
Give yourself permission that the ONLY thing you need to do to achieve success is drink 1/2 your BW in water.
When you do this, you will give yourself the confidence to keep going.
Don’t commit to lose 30 pounds, commit to losing 1/2 a pound every week.
It’s more realistic – and it’s healthier.
Consistency wins every time!
From 1998-2001, I played football at Temple University.
We were not very good.
Here’s our record from when I was there:
- 1998: 2-9
- 1999: 2-9
- 2000: 4-7
- 2001: 4-7
That’s 12 wins in 4 seasons.
The summer before our 2000 season, they tried to drop the program and kick us out of the Big East Conference.
We had just finished summer training and had worked our tails off. We were in great shape and ready the change the trajectory of Temple Football.
They brought us all into a big conference room and said that the University would be dropping the program and we would not be playing football next season.
We were devastated!
The program appealed and they gave us an extension, and our season was back on.
But it was still a shot to the gut; we were working so hard and so were our coaches.
That was the type of turmoil Temple Football faced during the late 90’s and 2000’s.
And after I left in 2001, it got even worse.
Fast forward to today…
On Saturday night, I watched the 7-0 Temple Owls play the 9th ranked team in the country, Notre Dame.
It was the the College Football Game of the Week – the entire country would be watching Temple Football.
The Owls were undefeated entering the game and played head to head with one of the best teams in the country.
They did not pull out a victory, losing in the last minute of the game.
But they earned the respect from the entire college football world, something they never had before.
I was a very proud Temple Owl on Saturday.
Right now you may be the the Temple Owls of the 90’s:
- You’re losing.
- Nothing is going right.
- You may want to quit.
- People are out to get you.
- Love and respect is not something you are getting.
What will it take for you to turn it around and be the Temple Owls of today?
It will only take one thing:
Know that fear is real and we all have it.
The measure of who we are is what we do in the face of fear.
Believe you will turn things around by standing up and facing your fear.
Believe you don’t have to do it alone, there are people out there waiting to help.
Believe that whatever struggles you have now, better days are on the horizon.
I will leave you with a quote:
“Fear is wetting your pants. Courage is doing it anyway with wet pants.”
Thank you for reading this.
Please share this with someone that needs this today!
What do you want?
There are two types of people:
People who want and people who need.
For those that want, there is no ceiling for success.
For people that need, there is a stopping point for success.
People who want are driven from within themselves.
People who need are driven from external sources.
People who want value freedom.
People who need value security.
People who want are creative
People who need are reactive
You want things because you want them – and there is no reason why you want them, there is no justification; you just want it.
The problem with needing is you think of every possible obstacle in place that justifies why you can’t have or do something.
Here is the action step that is guaranteed to
put you on the path to being a wanter:
Write down what you want every day. No justifications – if you want it, put it down.
Commit to this daily.
Go and purchase a separate notebook and write in it daily
Here is a sample of a few of mine:
- I want to write a great article this morning
- I want to be more focused when I am with my kids
- I want to be pain free
- I want to get a massage every week
- I want to buy a shore house
- I want to read faster
- I want Bella to put on her own seatbelt
So we all probably want a ton of things, writing them down every day will make them clearer.
But here is the big question you need to answer:
If you want all this,
who do you need to become to get it?
On October 7th, Vanessa and I had our 3rd child, a baby boy.
Vanessa and I are truly grateful to have had 3 healthy children – it’s more than we could ever ask for.
Statistics were not on my side, as there was only a 20% chance our third kid would be a boy.
I would go into Toys-r-Us with my 2 girls and slowly walk by the trucks, action figures and sports gear, wondering if I would ever walk those aisles with a son.
Well, that time has come.
I escaped the madness to write this, but am having trouble turning this into a lesson for you.
I am honestly just so happy and grateful.
So I want to dedicate this email to the GFP team.
I want to do this because I knew I need to step away and take some time with my family.
The team stepped up big time and continues to deliver you the highest quality training and customer service, whether I am there or not.
Tom Langton who has been with me since the start of GFP is truly the heart and soul of the gym.
Joe Hartigan still amazes me how much he studies and learns and now is in a leadership role, making everyone around him better.
Bernard McKenna is always there and is as dependable as ever.
Matt Carbone is one of the brightest and most diligent trainers I have been around, he continues to grow everyday.
Gina Voorhees is the glue to GFP.
Ellen Haley makes sure your day is brighter.
New Mommy Michelle McCabe is back and better than ever.
Chris DeGeorge continues to change lives everyday from his middle school training post.
And our newest team member Karen Vitti fits like a glove.
Vanessa and I could not be more blessed to have such an amazing team at GFP.
Each of us continues to grow everyday in pursuit of providing you the best fitness and health experience possible.
We are grateful to you for giving us the platform to do something we love.
Mindset Monday will be back and better than ever next week, stay tuned!